Divorce is an unfortunate reality many marriages and families face. Some studies have shown that 41% of first marriages end in divorce. We hope that you do not find yourself facing divorce, but if you do, then our number one priority is ensuring we are there for you and protecting your interests every step along the way. We understand that a divorce can be a stressful time for you and your children, which is why we first help our clients in preparing for the process, both in court and at home.
Based on our experience, here are a few recommendations for handling your divorce when it comes to your children:
- Reinforce to your child that it is not their fault. Whether your child is 7 or 17, oftentimes they seek to blame their parents’ divorce on themselves. It is important to talk to your children to explain that they are not the source of the divorce and work to relieve your child of any feelings of guilt or responsibility. It is important that you continue to allow your child to remain a child during this time.
- Keep an open dialogue and remind your children how you feel about them. While a divorce is a stressful time on you, it is important to reassure you children while going through the process. A divorce may mean moving or cutting back in spending and it is important to keep your life as stress-free as possible. Children can sense stress, and in turn, will begin to stress out about daily things they never used to worry about.
- Keep things positive about your spouse. While going through a divorce, it is quite normal to have feelings of frustration or anger towards your spouse. However, it is important to not share those feelings or otherwise speak poorly of your spouse in front of your children. Aside from potentially damaging the parent-child relationship between your spouse and your child, making disparaging remarks about your spouse could potentially be used court during custody proceedings. At the end of the day, you want to ensure your child feels happy and comfortable with both of their parents.
While those steps were straightforward, we believe that will help in preparing you and your children for life outside of Court. At JK Nelson Law, we also make sure to protect your rights and interest inside the court. We have experience in negotiating the best options for custody – both physical and legal custodial arrangements. While it is ideal for you and your spouse to resolve matters concerning visitation schedules, custody, and child support, we understand that it not always possible. If you and your spouse cannot come to an agreement on these matters, then you will likely proceed to a hearing before a judge who will determine those matters.
Our JK Nelson attorneys have years of experience with handling divorces and child custody trials. We can discuss how things such as finances, careers, work schedules, and many other factors can affect the judge’s decision as to whom your child will live with. Since there are so many factors that can influence your child’s custody, we want to help represent you and your child, to ensure that you receive the best outcome possible for your family. Call us today for your free consultation.